beauty
love
joy
peace
faithfulness
gentleness
patience
self-control
(1) The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. His voice dropped to a whisper. "Let it come in. We think we dont deserve love, we think
if we let it in we'll become too soft. But a wise man called Levine said it right. Love is the only rational act. (2) Sometimes, in the mornings, that's when i mourn. I feel around my body,
I move my fingers and my hands--whatever I can still move-- and I mourn for what I've lost. I mourn the slow, insidious way in which I am dying. But then, i stop. I give myself a good cry if
i need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life. YOU. (3) The culture doesnt encourage us to think about regrets until you're about to die. We're so wrapped up with
egotistical things, career, family, having enough money--trillions of little acts just to keep going. We dont have the habit to stand back and look at our lives "Is this all I want?" You need
someone to probe you in that direction. It doesnt happen automatically. I have found my teacher. Have you found yours? (4) Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live. Listen to that bird
on your shoulder, if you accept that you can die at any time, you might not be as ambitious as you are. (5) Love each other or perish. Family-- nothing else can give you spiritual security. Not
money, not fame. (6) Learn to detach. Dont cling to things, because everything is impermanent. Let the experience penetrate you fully. That's how you are able to leave it. If you dont allow yourself
to go all the way through them, you can never get to being detached. You're too busy being afraid, afraid of pain, grief and vulnerability. Throw yourself into these emotions. Dive in, all the way.
Then, you will know what the emotions are, and detach. (7) You have to find what's good and true and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. And age, is not
competitive. How can I be envious of where you are--when I've been there myself? (8) Devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community and people around you, create something
that gives you meaning. Do the kinds of things that come from the heart. When you do, you wont be dissatified, envious and longing for someone else's things. On the contrary, you'll be overwhelmed
with what comes back. (9) Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.Think of my voice and I will be there. (10) Respect, compromise and talk openly. Have a common set of values in life with
your partner. (11) The biggest defect we human beings have is our short-sightedness. Invest in the human family. Invest in those you love and who love you. In the beginning of life, when we were infants,
we need others to survive, right? At the end of life, you need others to survive right? (12) Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Tears are okay. Life is a tension of opposites. (13) As long as we can love
each other, and remember, the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. Death ends a life, not a rlnship. (14) I love you, Coach. He had finally made me cry.
Above-- excerpts fr Tuesdays with Morrie... (My entries, links and tagboard are in that order -> respectively.)
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Tuesday, September 13, 2005
it might be the Aussie mindset.. abt kids moving out young and stuff... like when they're 16 to 18, they move out of their hse, with their bf or sth.. i have a few plans out for my life:
(1) Stay in Brisbane after graduation-- work here for 2-3yrs after i grad.. work in Brisbane. hopefully RBH (they alr got 15 speechies in one single hospital!!! singapore max is only 5!! we're so damn short of Speechies in Sg.. and in Aust, 15 STs is counted MINIMAL!! n shortage).. after 2-3yrs, get my PR here, send my younger sis over to study, get her her PR n later my parents n elder sis. then the Lim family moves over here to retire. happily ever after. then i find a guy here, n marry as well.
(2) Go back Sg work in TTSH, get married n settle down -- self explanatory lar. abit of a sedante lifestyle. haha. married settle down. haha. now, its where the aussie mindset comes in. if i get attached and like things are stable btw my bf n i (will take a few years), i prob want to move out of my hse, rent somewhere near workplace together w my bf.. or hopefully, he stays near my workplace.. i move over to his hse, with his parents.. live a pseudo-married lifestyle for several months-years.. then get married.. during tt period of time, will be testing out if i can adapt to my future mother-in-law n my future husband's habits n stuff...
come Aussie to study, discovered.. actually bf n gf living under e same roof, is alr pseudo marriage.. get to know each other's habits n stuff... which is good. and i think its super dupez fun!! :) if not for i am single now, i prob stay w my bf now.. haha. BUT!! no one is overseas now w me.. sigh.. cohabiting so tt u wont have culture shock after marriage. i am not tt kind of person-- you make me stay w a guy after marriage suddenly for a lifetime and b4 tt you dont stay w him, dunno his habits n stuff.. need to know all these things to prevent those quarrels like "Why you never wash sink?? " that kind of thing.. or "why u anyhow put ur towel?!" that kind of thing..
overseas really make you more kai fang.. more open? haha.. ya.. but, previously b4 coming here, i always dreamt of cohabiting alr. =) if i am a guy, its v nice to go home, first thing see ur gf cooking for you, then prep ur bath.. so nice, blissful n couply life.. and on my part, its so nice to go home, cook for ur bf, wait for him to come home.. and then, when he does, give him back rub, a huge nice hugz n chase him to bathe n wait for food. haha..
(3) travelling clinic-- my childhood dream of the century. go ard the world, travel n treat pp.. if got bf to accompany me n support me, even better.. if not, travel ard the world.. then have to roam ard like a vagrant. haha.. =) this one, only can do w travelling fanatic kids like myself or do it alone.. (ie, nothing to hold me back..)
but of course, to the power of love, if a guy can accompany me for travelling clinic and its not e empty kind of follow.. he himself has to treat or help pp as well.. then, good.. :) i will be the happiest person ard.. like i cant possibly get someone to roam ard w me n see me treat n he do nothing..
anyway, before all these happens, i gotta grad.. after grad, i CONFIRM going on my europe trip b4 i decide to have one of the above plans done. :) anyway, i found out i have been v submissive to pp ard me recently..
-bree-
*brena*; timed 9:46 PM